We all have times when we lose our mojo. Sometimes it goes further than that though. Here are 5 things you can do to get anxiety under control
According to Mind a mental health crisis is
“when you feel your mental health is at breaking point. For example, you might be experiencing:
I do not claim to be an expert in mental health issues but I’ve certainly experienced them.
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However I’m the first to admit that sometimes the advice in the ebook is “too little too late”. The guide is for women who are managing to juggle the balls most of the time. Maybe balls are being dropped more often but at least to the outside work youre holding it all together.
What happens when it all comes crashing down around you though and you end up of work or so ill you have to cancel appointments with clients. I know what that feels like, that is exactly what happened to me a few year ago and I was dropped into a pit of despair that lead to me walking away from a career that I had loved at one time.
I was devastated so I’m now passionate about helping women to do what they need to do so they don’t get to that stage. But if you are already in that very dark and lonely pit of despair then this is a video you need to watch
Anger is an emotion that tells us that something is wrong but first we need to know how to relieve anger and calm down enough to figure out the message it contains. Anger may even help us to get out of dangerous situations, but sometimes the threats are just perceived and anger is not an appropriate emotion.
The anger itself is not the main problem though. It may help you to try to feel less angry in some situations, but for the most part your goal should be to learn how to quickly calm down, so that you can learn from it and start to express yourself in a healthier way.
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned – Buddha
You have probably heard this quote before but even if you haven’t you probably realise that anger isn’t one of the best emotions to experience. BUT, are you one of the many people that believe that they “can’t help getting angry” and that stress is just a part of life that we have to accept?
Most of us wouldn’t think of stress relief tips as lifesavers but…
Stress is one of the biggest health problems faced by people every day. Often we think of stress as part of life or something that we just have to accept. In a way that’s true, very few people never have any stress at all but it can literally be a killer unless stress relief tips become part of your day!
Stress can be a motivator and we all have a different tolerance for stress. However chronic stress can creep up on us slowly and get such a tight grip that it becomes debilitating. Chronic stress can lead to a variety of health problems as well. This is why it’s important that you learn how to handle everyday stress in a healthy way.
Below are 8 simple stress relief tips to help you live a better life
I’m feeling really pleased with myself lately because this is THE FIRST YEAR EVER that I haven’t used debt / credit to pay for Christmas. For a long time, I had the belief that I was bad with money and there was simply nothing I could do about that. I WAS bad with money, that was true, no matter how much I earned I simply could not save or live within a budget. Money stress was a problem for me even when I had a good job so when money was tight after first starting my business the money stress just got worse and worse, especially around Christmas!
But I knew that believing I couldn’t change was holding me back. After all what is the point of growing a successful business if I had nothing to show for it. So I set about changing my beliefs…
You might find this a little surprising, but saving money is a state of mind. Successfully stashing away your cash to achieve a goal and sticking to it when something shiny comes along takes an attitude, not just a few simple tricks.
Here’s how you can develop the right attitude and start working towards your goal today so money stress becomes a thing of the past. Continue reading
… who cares, do what is right for you and your family BUT DO NOT believe that life as a working mum has to be a struggle.
If you think that feeling tired, overwhelmed and overworked is just something you have to accept when you have kids and a job or business well I’m sorry but that is why you are stressed, it is your own fault! If you think it was meant to be a struggle then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. WAKE UP!!
Not only does it NOT have to be like that but if you are putting everyone elses needs in front of your own then not only are you affecting your health but feeling like that affects your moods, your thoughts and your family. So if you are justifying it by telling yourself its all for your family well its about time you got your head out of the sand and looked at the bigger picture.
I hope so because sometimes we need a kick up the backside!
I got one yesterday from my mentor because I hadn’t done something we’d discussed. Would she have given me a good talking to if she didn’t care? No she knew my self doubt about something was getting in my way and she cared enough to give me a piece of her mind.
I care about you! Whether we have met or not I care about the stressed out, overwhelmed, frustrated, self critical women that are part of this community
The chances are there is no quick and easy solution to your problem or at least not one you can see or care to explore BUT I can promise you there is a way forward if you keep looking and deal with the negative voices in your head telling you have to do some things or that you aren’t good enough, clever enough etc to do something. Life improvement takes time which is why I don’t do single coaching sessions. I work with people for a minimum of 3 months while they address the root cause. But while you are putting stepping stones in place to get wherever it is you want to be then there are lots and lots of ways to mimimize the stress or guilt or overwhelm.
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Children can get stressed out just like busy working mums but the chances are they won’t display the same symptoms of stress that adults do. It’s important to watch for the common signs of stress in your children so you can catch it before it builds and causes other problems.
If you have had a stress filled day at work its easy to put “bad behaviour” down to kids being teenagers or in the case of teenagers blaming hormones
But what if it’s more than that?
I’ve listed some common symptoms of stress found in children below.
Unexplained Aggression – Many stressed-out children begin to act in ways that are uncharacteristic for them and are aggressive in nature. For example kicking, hitting, biting and other aggressive actions.
Anger – Many children who are under stress don’t know how to deal with it and have “meltdowns” over things that are normally small. This happens because the stress builds up and they don’t know how to deal with it. Therefore, be on the lookout for unexplained angry outbursts in your children.
Lethargic Behavior – Children can become depressed when they are overrun with stress and one of the common signs of this is a lack of energy, or lethargic behavior. It may not be depression exactly, but may just be your child’s way of dealing with the stress.
Developmental Setbacks – If a child is stressed out, and is still young, you may notice that he or she is adopting habits that have long since been broken. For example, it’s not uncommon for young children under stress to resort back to thumb sucking and/or bed wetting.
There are lots of things things that can cause stress in children. While they aren’t the normal stressors for adults, these things are big deals to children, so don’t dismiss them. They include a change in family dynamics such as parents who are going through a divorce, constant fighting between parents and siblings or just tension in the home. Other stressors for children include issues at school such as teachers, class difficulty, bullies, exams, homework and much more.
There are several things that you can do to help your child cope with the amount of stress he or she is under.
Try to Understand – The worst thing you can do is listen to your child and then make a quick judgment of the situation. Don’t do this because it can cause your child to feel foolish and to hide his or her feelings from you. Listen to what he or she is saying and then try to look at it from his or her point of view. Base your response around that viewpoint.
Don’t Dismiss It – When your child shares his feelings with you, don’t dismiss them. Instead, let your child know that it’s okay to feel that way and that you’re always there for him. While you may think your child is over-reacting about something, his feelings are still important and very real.
Identify Stressors – While your child is experiencing the physical and emotional symptoms of stress, they may not connect the two (stress and their symptoms). Therefore, help your child identify the stressors in his or her life and show him or her how those stressors can cause the symptoms they are currently experiencing.[box]Do you want more time and energy with less guilt?, Do you want to go from stressed and shouty to calm, confident and back in control? – CLICK HERE to gain instant access to $800 of FREE calm mum gifts[/box]