Category Archives for Be Less Stressed

5 Things To Do To Get Anxiety Under Control

We all have times when we lose our mojo. Sometimes it goes further than that though. Here are 5 things you can do to get anxiety under control

According to Mind a mental health crisis is

“when you feel your mental health is at breaking point. For example, you might be experiencing:

I do not claim to be an expert in mental health issues but I’ve certainly experienced them.

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How To Cope When You’re In A Pit Of Despair

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One of my most popular free ebooks is “The Busy Womans Energy Guide”   <<<Click to get a copy

However I’m the first to admit that sometimes the advice in the ebook is “too little too late”. The guide is for women who are managing to juggle the balls most of the time. Maybe balls are being dropped more often but at least to the outside work youre holding it all together.

What happens when it all comes crashing down around you though and you end up of work or so ill you have to cancel appointments with clients. I know what that feels like, that is exactly what happened to me a few year ago and I was dropped into a pit of despair that lead to me walking away from a career that I had loved at one time.

I was devastated so I’m now passionate about helping women to do what they need to do so they don’t get to that stage. But if you are already in that very dark and lonely pit of despair then this is a video you need to watch

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Learn How To Calm Down, Relieve Anger And Reduce Stress

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Anger is an emotion that tells us that something is wrong but first we need to know how to relieve anger and calm down enough to figure out the message it contains. Anger may even help us to get out of dangerous situations, but sometimes the threats are just perceived and anger is not an appropriate emotion.

The anger itself is not the main problem though. It may help you to try to feel less angry in some situations, but for the most part your goal should be to learn how to quickly calm down, so that you can learn from it and start to express yourself in a healthier way.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned – Buddha

You have probably heard this quote before but even if you haven’t you probably realise that anger isn’t one of the best emotions to experience.  BUT, are you one of the many people that believe that they “can’t help getting angry” and that stress is just a part of life that we have to accept?

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8 Simple Stress Relief Tips

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Most of us wouldn’t think of stress relief tips as lifesavers but…

Stress is one of the biggest health problems faced by people every day. Often we think of stress as part of life or something that we just have to accept. In a way that’s true, very few people never have any stress at all but it can literally be a killer unless stress relief tips become part of your day!

Stress can be a motivator and we all have a different tolerance for stress. However chronic stress can creep up on us slowly and get such a tight grip that it becomes debilitating. Chronic stress can lead to a variety of health problems as well. This is why it’s important that you learn how to handle everyday stress in a healthy way.

Below are 8 simple stress relief tips to help you live a better life

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Does Money Stress You Out?

I’m feeling really pleased with myself lately because this is THE FIRST YEAR EVER that I haven’t used debt / credit to pay for Christmas. For a long time, I had the belief that I was bad with money and there was simply nothing I could do about that. I WAS bad with money, that was true, no matter how much I earned I simply could not save or live within a budget. Money stress was a problem for me even when I had a good job so when money was tight after first starting my business the money stress just got worse and worse, especially around Christmas!

But I knew that believing I couldn’t change was holding me back. After all what is the point of growing a successful business if I had nothing to show for it. So I set about changing my beliefs…

You might find this a little surprising, but saving money is a state of mind. Successfully stashing away your cash to achieve a goal and sticking to it when something shiny comes along takes an attitude, not just a few simple tricks.

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Laughter is the best medicine

Laughter just like exercise can boost your health.

Not only does it alleviate stress in the short term by releasing endorphins and encouraging you to take in more oxygen rich air but it also has long benefits because it supports the immune system, improves blood pressure, stimulate the organs and reduces pain.

You don’t need to watch a funny film just 10 minutes or less of watching funny youtube clips will do the trick so save some favourites to your smart phone.

Here are some of my favourites…


7 Questions To Ask Yourself When Life is a Mess

ADMITMy life was a mess a few years ago and at the time it was hard to see a message but I knew there was one, there had to be….  that and my kids is what kept Julia Version 1.0 going.


It took a while but not only did I find the message I’m now calmer, more confident, more resilient, re-energised and back in control of my life… not always… sometimes things crop up in life that totally de-rail us. That happened to me recently and I spent a good few hours wallowing in self pity. How I handled this now and how I would have handled it years ago is very different.


If your life is a mess…Congratulations!!, there is a message in there especially for you.

This time I gave myself permission to have a good cry that evening and to eat lots of chocolate and drink more wine than I usually would during the week. I allowed myself to be vulnerable and asked my support community for help. All the time I was doing that though I knew that it was a temporary release and that in the morning I would use the tools and strategies I’ve learned to pick myself up and brush myself down and continue being… Julia2.0


One of the things I do to get back on track quickly is ask myself a series of questions:

  1. What if this is an opportunity?
  2. What if this is a hugely positive turning point in your life?
  3. What are you avoiding because it streches your comfort zone?
  4. What would x (a positive role model do) in this situation?
  5. What strengths do you have that would be useful now?
  6. What do you need to do to bring your “A game” to this situation?
  7. How / who could you ASK for help AND ACCEPT help from?
A few year ago the message to me was that I was in the wrong job and that I needed to start looking after myself better. It was tough at the time but I learned soooooo much about myself and about becoming more resilient that I now use the experience to help support other frazzled professional women who are feeling overwhelmed, lost and probably a bit lonely.


Looking back some of the things I learned about myself are:

  • When something isn’t fair I fight to put it right but only if it affects others too. I don’t like injustice so will fight for others before myself.
  • I’m strong and confident but being in “fight” mode for too long affected my confidence, not because I wasn’t strong enough but because I’m human and didn’t know enough to balance the fight or flight response with the need to recharge and repair. Self-doubt crept in, I started to feel vulnerable, it was a viscious cycle.
  • When I found the tools and strategies to break that cycle I was energised and empowered.
  • When tackling difficult situations I have been afraid of the consequences and unknown outcome but more afraid of not trying. I always had a better outcome than expected
  • I’m a leader, not just at work… also at home. I say enough is enough to inspire others to do the same. I only admit that I need help / ask for help / feel vulnerable etc. to inspire others to do the same, I still find it difficult, I’m a work in progress, we are all a work in progress
  • I fight for others not realising that by doing so and putting myself last I’m not as effective or as good a leader (at home and at work / in business) as I can be / want to be
  • When I started to doubt myself I lost my identity. I was good at my job, nothing else…I thought… I was wrong
  • I realised that the professional me wasn’t the real me, she was only a very small part of me.
  • I was frightened to be someone different. Now I know that I haven’t changed I’ve just evolved into a better, happier, freer, calmer, more authentic, even more resilient version of me, like ME2.0
  • I learned that I impact and lead those around me not by fighting and burning myself out but by being me and leading by example
  • I’ve learned that I’m far from perfect but I’m enough, so are you!
  • I’ve learned that being vulnerable takes courage but sometimes its the right thing to do!
  • I’ve learned being the best version of me isn’t about being perfect it’s about being authentic and learning from everything I do (or don’t do)
  • I’ve learned that I love to help other frazzled professional women break the cycle so they can be the leader they want to be without putting themself last

Day One of the rest of your life is NOW!! Have you chosen what the rest of your life looks like?

1As part of The Real You Reboot private membership site I’ve been having tremendous success while working with frazzled professional women who want to shift out of stress and self sabotage and upgrade to Version 2.0


I know the power of the right support and I’ve been purposely building an empowering support network for several years. Not everyone has that luxury so I have decided to gift 25  “Real You Reboot” sessionsIn these complimentary 20 minute sessions I will help you to shift out of stress and self sabotage and we will explore your biggest challenge so that you discover how to be a new, improved and upgraded version of you…


  • You can have the time and energy to enjoy life again
  • Be present and focused with loved ones because when life is unravelling for you it affects everyone around you no matter how much you try to protect others
  • Work out how to stop self sabotage and procrastination
  • Be your own greatest champion
  • Or whatever else you need right now, even if you aren’t sure what that is
I would like to invite you, YES YOU!!! to experience one of these 25 complimentary Real You Reboot sessions (Please note, this offer is not available to anyone who has already received a complimentary session with me)
Real You Reboot Session


To book one of these sessions please complete this questionnaire, this allows us to jump straight in and get the maximun impact in 20 minutes
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When you have completed the short questionnaire click the link below to find a slot in my calendar that is convenient for you.
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