Some of the footage of the Black Friday sales is ridiculous and very upsetting.
Why do people not realise that “stuff” isn’t what makes you happy?
Yes it helps and its nice to have and its exciting to bag a bargain or get home and unwrap all of the nice things that you have bought. Its nice to give presents if you love buying things for others!
Isn’t it funny how we have pre conceived ideas about certain things or people
It’s half way through the “Say NO in NOvember challenge” and one of the participants kindly recommended the challenge in a Facebook group. One ladies response was…
“…as soon as anyone posts something like this, my mind just switches off and I think “these things don’t work, it’ll just be some over-positive rich woman who’s had one too many red bulls bouncing around the room telling you the only thing holding you back is yourself “
Well she was half right …
Well, the 24 hours we have isn’t going to change any time soon so you can live with it or take more responsibility for your precious time by starting to say no.
The pressures of modern day life have led to huge changes in our daily routines, yet we were taught that women “behave” in a certain way by our mothers, grandmothers and teachers who lived in a very different way.
If you look at the environment you live in now with the technology and gadgets you have access to and compare it to all that was available when you were growing up you will see a huge difference.
My mojo finding strategies are well and truly tested!
I originally posted my strategies for refinding my mojo back in September 2013. I’ll share the 10 things I do again towards the end of this post but first…
Its been one hell of a year and when sharing my strategies for refinding my mojo I had no idea how much I would need them over the last 12 months. Sometimes life throws us a curve ball and we can either be a victim and think “poor me” or we can see it as a test that will make us stronger.
Normally I’m all about sharing my personal struggles because I think it helps others going through the same but the past year I got caught up in something that isn’t my story to tell. Maybe one day but not right now.
well… you feel like a failure because you are comparing yourself to others, you feel like a failure because you are trying to fit into what society dictates “a good mum / wife / business owner / employee” looks like.
For goodness sake Ladies, WAKE UP! Continue reading
“How to forgive” is one of my favourite subjects but it’s actually not something that most people want to do BUT if you have someone in your life who you want to punch in the face or poke in the eye you need to forgive them
Ok, I get it, it’s probably the LAST thing that you want to do but you should do it anyway!
I’m not one for doing things just because we “should” do it so let me put it another way. You will feel better if you forgive them, this isn’t about them… its about you. being angry with someone eats away at YOU.
You might be asking “but Julia how can I forgive when they did X”
If you aren’t ready to forgive then that’s ok… stay angry but do it consciously, and be aware of what it is costing you. If you choose not to forgive (and yes IT IS a choice) then find a way to make peace with how you feel and accept that anger is part of being human and that you are not ready to let it go YET.
Or you could minimise the anger by actively blocking out the trigger. I was talking to a friend recently who gets very angry with a colleague. She’s normally a pretty chilled out person but one person just triggers her.
The thing is though she is triggered by what this person posts on Facebook…. duh, unfollow or unfriend her!!!!
You know who you are and it’s all said with love ;)
Oh and by the way forgiving someone does not make you weak it makes you STRONG!!
If you are ready to forgive great, for some people that is easy for others it’s not. You might even believe that you can’t forgive them but I promise you that if you want to then you can.
At the risk of letting my woo-woo side out of the closet I’m going to share my 2 favourite “how to forgive” tools, they are Ho’oponopono and EFT.
Ho’oponopono is something that is super simple to do (which is why I like it), although not to spell and don’t ask me to pronounce it :) and although I could tell you what to do you would think I’m a bit bonkers and I would have trouble explaining how it works so instead I’m going to add some links to articles that explain it much better that I could. Plus I don’t believe in reinventing the wheel!!
I’ve written about EFT in a previous blog post… https://www.julia-harris.com/tap-into-your-emotions-with-eft check this post out then google “EFT for forgiveness” for a video to follow along to. Personally I like Brad Yates videos but find one that resonates with you, reserve judgement and give it a go
If you are anything like me you are probably very sceptical about anything like this.
I’m a qualified EFT Practitioner and I’m still sceptical but I gave up worrying about whether things made sense a long time ago when I realised that it I wanted different things out of life I needed to do different things in my life. Now I could tell you about lots of times I’ve forgiven someone that I truly wanted to punch and got a really eye opening result. Who knows maybe one day I will… but for now let me ask you who do you need to forgive?
One of the most dangerous things you can say or think is “I already know that”
I was reminded about this when I went to a convention last weekend. It’s a 5 hour car journey for me to get there which means an overnight stay so it ends up fairly expensive.
There were several speakers on the day and I promised my team that weren’t able to make it that I would take lots of notes to share with them.
I’ve just finished making a video for them which talks them through all of the notes I made. The video ended up at almost an hour long. Afterwards I was left thinking that it was too long and most people wouldn’t have time to watch it, that led me to question how valuable the information was that I shared.
The truth was I knew about 90% of what was shared. Some people might think it was a waste of time and money going but they would be wrong because I know there is a HUGE difference between knowing something and doing it.
All of the knowledge you ever need to be successful at something is out there somewhere. With a smart phone you have the world in the palm of your hands but information is only one of the ingredients.
• Some people don’t know where to start looking or what questions to ask so do nothing.
• Some people want more and more information and are so busy cramming their brain with information that they don’t take action
• Some people are easily distracted so jump from one technique to another
If there is something you want to do but you are stuck in “learning mode” then instead of thinking “I already know that” and continuing the search for the magic key ask yourself questions so “I already know that” becomes “how could I do that?” or “who could I talk to that could help me with that?”
Information is one of the keys to success, action is another and one that people forget about is having a positive mindset. Lots of things feed into having a positive mindset but one of the most important things is surrounding yourself with positive people.
Most of my family and friends don’t really understand what I do so it would be easy to get demoralised and feel isolated if it weren’t for things like conventions or other events where I meet other people who “get me” and are passionate about the same things as me. Events like this recharge my belief and my motivation because the road to success and the road to failure is the same road but successful people don’t give up.
Do you have a way to recharge or maintain your motivation? Hit reply I’d love to know what you do or if you are looking for a way to do that let me know and I’ll help you come up with something…. It doesn’t have to involved travel and over night stays :)