Fear is something you might not think about too often but I guarantee that any problems in your life have some form of fear at their heart. If you want more happiness in your life or even a particular area of your life then take a 30 minute break to watch this video.
If the first thing you think is that you don’t have 30 minutes to watch a video then no wonder you are unhappy….
Maybe you think happiness is something that will happen “later” when you have all of your ducks in a row…
Maybe you think you aren’t worthy of being happy…
I remember reading an article about confidence a few year ago that said “confidence can’t be learned”. The article really annoyed me because I believe anything can be learned!
However I do believe that confidence feels different and shows up differently for everyone. And that means you can’t learn to be confident simply by doing what someone else is doing.
I don’t watch the news. There is so much devastation across the world and I prefer to focus on the kindness that exists, my Mum thinks that’s naive of me… maybe you do too and thats ok, its ok to have a different point of view, I’m confident and comfortable enough not to let other peoples opinions affect how I think about myself… most of the time!
I say most of the time because I’m human and sometimes self-doubt crops up… but I have strategies to deal with the gremlins and get back on track.
So although I don’t watch the news it would be virtually impossible not be aware of the events in Orlando… or in the UK about the recent murder of a politician
And every-time I look at Facebook there is someone highlighting other atrocities that are taking place yet don’t get as much cover due to where they are in the world.
You probably already know that there are some things you should stop worrying about but I want you to think about it differently.
I deliberately used the words “should stop worrying” but I actually seriously dislike the word “should”.
When a client tells me “I should do x” my alarm bells go off. In fact I sometimes still catch myself using the should word BUT now I know to stop and think about why I use that word rather than saying something like “I will…” or “I want to…”
I want you to take a moment to think about the power of perspective…
Where you ever told to “stop showing off” when you were a child? Do you find it difficult as an adult to “show up and shine”?
I want you to consider that the 2 are highly likely to be related. If we have trouble doing something as an adult that we want to do in order to achieve our goals then it is usually our limiting beliefs holding us back.
I was talking to someone yesterday who was procrastinating about doing what she wanted to do and was more than capable of doing to take her business to the next level. After digging under the surface there was a fear of rejection but mainly it was the belief that “nice girls don’t show off”
When we were talking about her children though she LOVED IT when they showed off because in them she saw it as shining and being confident…
You are taught your beliefs as children BUT THEY NO LONGER SERVE YOU!!
It is easier said than done to adopt new beliefs but it all starts with awareness. Awareness is the first step to getting better results faster.
So are you showing off or showing up? It really is all about the power of perspective!
In very basic terms coaching is about supporting clients to get from where they are now to where they want to be… in other words to achieve their goal.
Sounds simple doesn’t it… except some people aren’t entirely sure where they want to be… they just know that they don’t want to be where they are now!
Some people just want to be happy with what they have because they discovered that the new car, new partner, bigger house, promotion, more money… whatever it is that they thought would make them happy made no difference whatsoever!
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However I’m the first to admit that sometimes the advice in the ebook is “too little too late”. The guide is for women who are managing to juggle the balls most of the time. Maybe balls are being dropped more often but at least to the outside work youre holding it all together.
What happens when it all comes crashing down around you though and you end up of work or so ill you have to cancel appointments with clients. I know what that feels like, that is exactly what happened to me a few year ago and I was dropped into a pit of despair that lead to me walking away from a career that I had loved at one time.
I was devastated so I’m now passionate about helping women to do what they need to do so they don’t get to that stage. But if you are already in that very dark and lonely pit of despair then this is a video you need to watch
Fear of rejection was a challenge for me for a long time but it didn’t really cause any problems until I started my business.
I am passionate about learning so not only had I learned my craft (coaching) but I had studied the marketing and business side of it too. I knew what to do, when to do it and how to do it. The only problem was…
I didn’t do it!
I had lots great reasons why I didn’t do it. I had lots of EXCUSES!
My reasons were things like:
I thought I was a bad Mother
I’d shout for no good reason
I missed school plays
I’d make excuses not to bake with them
I forgot to take them to friends parties
I often forgot to give them dinner money for school
Everything we do should be useful or fun!
But we women do lots of things that aren’t either so take a moment to stop and ask yourself why you are doing that thing.
There will be a benefit in there for you even if its just “keeping the peace” There is nothing wrong with that but do it consciously and be aware that short term gains usually have long term consequences.
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